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29 May 2020 10:40:52
Watching the programme with Prince William last night on mens mental health it struck me how we as men are far more compassionate and understanding to others than we are ourselves.
If someone opened up to us we'd never think of them as weak or weird we'd make time for them and listen and do all we could to reassure them that they had just hit a low point and everything would be ok, yet we struggle to be so kind and understanding when it comes to seeing ourselves.
If we could only learn to set the bar at exactly the same hight for ourselves as we do others things would be so much better so much quicker when things are difficult.

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25 Mar 2020 10:39:54
While looking for answers to my own issues on the Internet a name I kept seeing mentioned was Ekhart Tolle but for years I stayed away from his articles and YouTube clips because the way people were putting on such a high pedestal using phrases like " Spiritual teacher " and being " Enlightened " gave the impression of him being some kind of cult leader and it put me right off looking into him as I knew I was vulnerable and the last thing I needed was to have some cult leader messing with and getting into my already confused and fearful mind.
Since I've found myself with a lot of free time since March started and I was in a much better place mentally I decided to check out this Ekhart Tolle bloke and I'm really pleased I did as I couldn't have been more wrong about him if I'd tried :-)
There are some really short clips of 3 to 5 minutes as well as much longer ones available on YouTube of him if anyone's interested in taking a look at him.
He is basically a really nice human being who came through pretty difficult mental illness and decided to learn more about how the mind does what it does and share it with other people, he's also really funny at times too.
If you do check him out try to watch the bit how he rented out a room in his house in Glastonbury :-) really funny story while at the same time very eye opening to how we all get caught up with our thoughts.
Prior to watching him I though the Ego was all about being big headed but it turns out that's not the case at all and our Ego plays a huge role in our mental health struggles, I've found it really interesting as well as very helpful and hope if anyone checks it out they will too.

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1.) 27 Mar 2020 23:55:58
I will have a look over the weekend mate not something I have looked in to but I have been very consumed in my own head to loom or even knowing where to look thank you mate.


2.) 28 Mar 2020 11:39:10
Hi Berg mate hope you find something that helps in some way in them mate.

We've come a long way in understanding how our bodies work and how to maintain them better but most of us know next to nothing about how our minds work and why we struggle.
We take our thoughts and feelings personal because we think we are producing them when in fact 99.9% of out thoughts are our minds working on auto pilot merely reproducing what got our attention yesterday and the day before again today much like predictive text does, understanding and accepting this helped me so much and helped me break the unhappy and unhealthy thinking trap I'd fallen into.
I very much appreciate like our bodies not all minds suffer with the same things at the same time in the same way but the very basic raw principles are similar, like a GP with the body there are people out there who have good understanding of the mind who can help us all help ourselves, very thankfully.

I wish you so much well Berg mate I truly do and hope like everyone everywhere who is struggling right now you find peace with mind very very soon mate. God bless you mate.


 

 

22 Mar 2020 12:58:39
I'd just like to share with everyone and phrase I read that brought me real strength on the numerous times I felt overwhelmed by worry fear anxiety and felt I'd gone backwards yet again.
" THIS TIME TO WILL PASS "
When I was having a really bad day I reminded myself " It's just a bad day not a bad life " I'd tell myself " It's a set back and not a totally relapse, it passed last time and the time before that and the time before that too and it will pass this time too " it made an enormous difference on how bad the bad days got and how long they lasted for enabling me to think more rationally much sooner.

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{Ed047's Note - I’m not at all religious but this is one I’ve often referred to mate.

May god give me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change and to have the courage to change the things I can and grant me the wisdom to recognise the difference.


1.) 22 Mar 2020 15:17:34
Hi Ed047 it a beautiful piece of writing mate, no I'm not at all religious myself mate but I believe in God and have ever since I can remember but I have never believed in the Bible or any religion at all, this is something that really confuses those who have tried to recruit me to their various brands of Christianity over the years :-)

I don't for one minute claim to know what God is and instantly dismiss anyone who does claim they know more than anyone else about something which is totally unknowable by anyone.

But you don't have to be religious to see and understand the kindness of the serenity prayer, they are wise kind compassionate words whoever wrote them and what ever their personal views and opinions.

It's the same as THIS TIME TO SHALL PASS which is often attributed to but not exclusively attributed Jesus, to me it's totally irrelevant who said it, it's still a very wise and helpful phrase regardless of its origins.

When it comes to beliefs and faith it's very much to each their own in my opinion but kindness and compassion aren't under copywrite to anyone so we should all feel free to totally indulge in and share with as many people as possible :-)

{Ed047's Note - totally agree mate.


 

 

 

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15 May 2020 17:58:24
Cheers Kenny mate, I think the more we share our own experiences the easier it gets for all of us to share and help each other in any way we can.
I'm ok at the moment thank you mate I've had a few days where I've struggled a bit more again lately but I think we've all had a few of those days over the last couple of months.
Hope all is OK with you and yours mate?

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14 May 2020 14:13:29
According to scientific studies Gratitude has exactly the same effect on the brain as antidepressants Kenny mate so what your saying about looking at family and positives in your life are well supported methods of support.

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13 May 2020 21:45:00
Your more than welcome mate and you are most definitely not alone mate, at any given time 1 in 4 of us are struggling in some way or another mentally.
Like Ed001 says talking to others is so important because if we don't talk to others we all only end up talking to ourselves (mentally) and keep getting the same old self defeating false information that caused our problems in the first place.
You'll be fine mate because again like Ed said you've already taken the biggest step there is, admitting your struggling in the first place.

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13 May 2020 20:32:52
Hi mate try and do some research on how the mind works so as to get some understanding of why we all feel and act the way We do sometimes, for me I think getting to know and understand how our ego feeds on our fears and insecurities is a huge eye opener.
Some people have an over inflated ego where they feel superior to others most of the time while other people have a heavily deflated ego where they feel inferior in many areas of their life, of course niether are usaully true.
All our minds feed us loads False thoughts about ourselves and others that most of us allow to spoil our life's to some degree, how many times in all our life's has our mind predicted the worst case scenario? Thousands if not millions of times for most of us and how many of those thousands or millions of predictions from our minds have ever happend? How many times have we all told ourselves in our head that we know what other people think of us when we get something wrong? But in reality we have no idea what other people are thinking but our mind will almost always tell us it's negativ, which it rarely everything is.
Once you understand more about how and why the mind works as it does then you gain so much freedom and independence from its automatic responses and thoughts.

A good site is
Think Less Grow Rich run by Richard Patterson, if you Google it and once the site pops up go on the home page you will find a few short articles that relate to anxiety and the monkey mind as they call it.
Hope it helps mate, it helped me loads, good luck.

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10 May 2020 11:48:12
Definitely having some tough days where I'm struggling a bit mentally Wyred mate but thankfully I'm still managing to have more ok days so far.
No one likes hypocritical people who don't practice what they so love to preach on a regular basis to everyone else about how they personally think the world should be, Just look at the scientists who are advising the rest of the country how to stay safe then breaking the rules they themselves helped create and are having to step down?
The problem with putting yourself on a pedestal is having the self control to stay there.
Lock down is tough and I totally understand some people are more capable of handling it than others but the more the minority of people brake the restrictions the longer the majority will have to suffer.
When it's all over people will naturally look back at the hero's and villains, those who went above and beyond for others and of course those who put themselves before everyone and anyone else, the problem for Kyle is he wants to live one way but seems to have a real need to be seen as one of the good guys and feels hard done by if people judge him by his actions rather than his words.
Hope all is good with you and yours Wyred mate.

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