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11 Jun 2020 12:40:19
I've been learning a bit about The Chimp Paradox by Steve Peters the last couple of days, really interesting stuff.
Basically it's a very simple and easy to understand way of seeing how our minds work and why we struggle sometimes plus how to deal with things better and be happier.
Steve Peters apparently worked with Liverpool in the 2013 14 season and with Chris Hoy and Victoria Pemberton in the 2012 Olympic games and from everything I've read about plus seen on YouTube about him seems to be a really nice bloke who has a really good understanding of the mind and has developed a very simple way to share his knowledge with other people.
I thought I'd share what I'd found it with anyone else who might be interested in taking a look, I'm so impressed I'm actually going to invest in the audiobook once I get back to work :-)

gunner62

{Ed001's Note - I would call it nonsense personally and it certainly didn't help when Liverpool needed it.....}


1.) 11 Jun 2020 13:16:43
Fair comment Ed001 mate I actually did think about how that season ended for Liverpool and think?
But having seen several YouTube videos plus read some very good user reviews on the method from people who had struggled for years before hand I though it was definitely worth sharing.
I was impressed enough to want to buy a copy but then again I bought real 4 unicorns and a genuine dragons tail 3 weeks ago that still haven't arrived so maybe I'm not a good example of where to spend your money :-) but luckily for the less gullible there is plenty of free stuff online too!

{Ed001's Note - it's fine if it works, but it is not a genuine change, it is more hiding behind another prop imo. I read a lot about him when he was brought in at Liverpool, took the time to read the book and was not in the slightest impressed. It just seems like a crutch, rather than a genuine method for improving yourself.}


2.) 11 Jun 2020 13:54:07
That's an extremely fair comment given you've actually read the book yourself mate.
I think it's a bit like giving up smoking or dieting where by what works for some doesn't work for others and because we are all individuals we all relate differently to different methods, we just have to find what works for best for us.
I'm going for the audiobook because I've recently realised I tend to retain verbal information better than written, if I'm mastermind champion 2021 then we will know it's worked for me at least :-)

{Ed001's Note - and there is another reminder we are all different and need different inputs etc - I retain written information more easily than verbal. I fully agree you have to go for what works for you, but that is very rarely going to come from self-help books in the long term. I prefer the way Bruce Lee would look to when he said 'Be water, my friend' and talked about no way as the way. Basically you look into all the methods and then cherry pick just the bits that work for you and put it all together as your own way of doing things.}


3.) 11 Jun 2020 16:11:30
Mate I couldn't agree more with both you and Bruce; there is no absolute right or wrong way to go and with a mix and match approach at some point somewhere we all find our own way,
I read once " enjoy the company of those who seek the truth but be extremely cautious of anyone and everyone who claim to have found the one real truth ".

{Ed001's Note - that is a very good saying. It is a bit like studying history, there is no one true history as we all remember things slightly differently and our memories get altered over time as well. It is not just our memories that change, we do, so what works one day is not necessarily going to work the next one. You have to flow - like water - and adapt to circumstance.}


4.) 11 Jun 2020 16:58:34
Absolutely mate, the clue is in the title His Story which is basically someone somewhere's version of events. All our memory's are a rough sketch of what really happend back in time with a huge dose of our own feelings positive or negative about the event added for good measure.
The most valuable lessons in history are our mistakes so we can save ourselves from repeating them, hopefully!

{Ed001's Note - or so we can make sure that we repeat the most fun ones over and over.....}


5.) 11 Jun 2020 17:32:23
Absolutely right mate, life isn't about keeping everyone else happy for me it's about living life as you want and makes you happy as long as what you do doesn't take away anyone's else right to be happy too.
Be kind as often as possible and when your not able to be kind simply don't be unkind to anyone.

{Ed001's Note - me ma always used to say if you have nothing nice to say then don't say anything. I used to be quiet a lot back then!}


6.) 11 Jun 2020 18:23:59
It's funny my Mum always said the same mate, she also told me don't say behind someone's back what you wouldn't be happy to say to thier face!

{Ed001's Note - I have always lived by that rule as well. It got me into a lot of trouble as I always seem to forget the second part of it.}


 

 

29 May 2020 10:40:52
Watching the programme with Prince William last night on mens mental health it struck me how we as men are far more compassionate and understanding to others than we are ourselves.
If someone opened up to us we'd never think of them as weak or weird we'd make time for them and listen and do all we could to reassure them that they had just hit a low point and everything would be ok, yet we struggle to be so kind and understanding when it comes to seeing ourselves.
If we could only learn to set the bar at exactly the same hight for ourselves as we do others things would be so much better so much quicker when things are difficult.

gunner62

 

 

25 Mar 2020 10:39:54
While looking for answers to my own issues on the Internet a name I kept seeing mentioned was Ekhart Tolle but for years I stayed away from his articles and YouTube clips because the way people were putting on such a high pedestal using phrases like " Spiritual teacher " and being " Enlightened " gave the impression of him being some kind of cult leader and it put me right off looking into him as I knew I was vulnerable and the last thing I needed was to have some cult leader messing with and getting into my already confused and fearful mind.
Since I've found myself with a lot of free time since March started and I was in a much better place mentally I decided to check out this Ekhart Tolle bloke and I'm really pleased I did as I couldn't have been more wrong about him if I'd tried :-)
There are some really short clips of 3 to 5 minutes as well as much longer ones available on YouTube of him if anyone's interested in taking a look at him.
He is basically a really nice human being who came through pretty difficult mental illness and decided to learn more about how the mind does what it does and share it with other people, he's also really funny at times too.
If you do check him out try to watch the bit how he rented out a room in his house in Glastonbury :-) really funny story while at the same time very eye opening to how we all get caught up with our thoughts.
Prior to watching him I though the Ego was all about being big headed but it turns out that's not the case at all and our Ego plays a huge role in our mental health struggles, I've found it really interesting as well as very helpful and hope if anyone checks it out they will too.

gunner62

1.) 27 Mar 2020 23:55:58
I will have a look over the weekend mate not something I have looked in to but I have been very consumed in my own head to loom or even knowing where to look thank you mate.


2.) 28 Mar 2020 11:39:10
Hi Berg mate hope you find something that helps in some way in them mate.

We've come a long way in understanding how our bodies work and how to maintain them better but most of us know next to nothing about how our minds work and why we struggle.
We take our thoughts and feelings personal because we think we are producing them when in fact 99.9% of out thoughts are our minds working on auto pilot merely reproducing what got our attention yesterday and the day before again today much like predictive text does, understanding and accepting this helped me so much and helped me break the unhappy and unhealthy thinking trap I'd fallen into.
I very much appreciate like our bodies not all minds suffer with the same things at the same time in the same way but the very basic raw principles are similar, like a GP with the body there are people out there who have good understanding of the mind who can help us all help ourselves, very thankfully.

I wish you so much well Berg mate I truly do and hope like everyone everywhere who is struggling right now you find peace with mind very very soon mate. God bless you mate.


 

 

22 Mar 2020 12:58:39
I'd just like to share with everyone and phrase I read that brought me real strength on the numerous times I felt overwhelmed by worry fear anxiety and felt I'd gone backwards yet again.
" THIS TIME TO WILL PASS "
When I was having a really bad day I reminded myself " It's just a bad day not a bad life " I'd tell myself " It's a set back and not a totally relapse, it passed last time and the time before that and the time before that too and it will pass this time too " it made an enormous difference on how bad the bad days got and how long they lasted for enabling me to think more rationally much sooner.

gunner62

{Ed047's Note - I’m not at all religious but this is one I’ve often referred to mate.

May god give me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change and to have the courage to change the things I can and grant me the wisdom to recognise the difference.


1.) 22 Mar 2020 15:17:34
Hi Ed047 it a beautiful piece of writing mate, no I'm not at all religious myself mate but I believe in God and have ever since I can remember but I have never believed in the Bible or any religion at all, this is something that really confuses those who have tried to recruit me to their various brands of Christianity over the years :-)

I don't for one minute claim to know what God is and instantly dismiss anyone who does claim they know more than anyone else about something which is totally unknowable by anyone.

But you don't have to be religious to see and understand the kindness of the serenity prayer, they are wise kind compassionate words whoever wrote them and what ever their personal views and opinions.

It's the same as THIS TIME TO SHALL PASS which is often attributed to but not exclusively attributed Jesus, to me it's totally irrelevant who said it, it's still a very wise and helpful phrase regardless of its origins.

When it comes to beliefs and faith it's very much to each their own in my opinion but kindness and compassion aren't under copywrite to anyone so we should all feel free to totally indulge in and share with as many people as possible :-)

{Ed047's Note - totally agree mate.


 

 

 

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11 Jun 2020 18:23:59
It's funny my Mum always said the same mate, she also told me don't say behind someone's back what you wouldn't be happy to say to thier face!

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{Ed001's Note - I have always lived by that rule as well. It got me into a lot of trouble as I always seem to forget the second part of it.}


 

 

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11 Jun 2020 17:32:23
Absolutely right mate, life isn't about keeping everyone else happy for me it's about living life as you want and makes you happy as long as what you do doesn't take away anyone's else right to be happy too.
Be kind as often as possible and when your not able to be kind simply don't be unkind to anyone.

gunner62

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11 Jun 2020 16:58:34
Absolutely mate, the clue is in the title His Story which is basically someone somewhere's version of events. All our memory's are a rough sketch of what really happend back in time with a huge dose of our own feelings positive or negative about the event added for good measure.
The most valuable lessons in history are our mistakes so we can save ourselves from repeating them, hopefully!

gunner62

{Ed001's Note - or so we can make sure that we repeat the most fun ones over and over.....}


 

 

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11 Jun 2020 16:11:30
Mate I couldn't agree more with both you and Bruce; there is no absolute right or wrong way to go and with a mix and match approach at some point somewhere we all find our own way,
I read once " enjoy the company of those who seek the truth but be extremely cautious of anyone and everyone who claim to have found the one real truth ".

gunner62

{Ed001's Note - that is a very good saying. It is a bit like studying history, there is no one true history as we all remember things slightly differently and our memories get altered over time as well. It is not just our memories that change, we do, so what works one day is not necessarily going to work the next one. You have to flow - like water - and adapt to circumstance.}


 

 

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11 Jun 2020 13:54:07
That's an extremely fair comment given you've actually read the book yourself mate.
I think it's a bit like giving up smoking or dieting where by what works for some doesn't work for others and because we are all individuals we all relate differently to different methods, we just have to find what works for best for us.
I'm going for the audiobook because I've recently realised I tend to retain verbal information better than written, if I'm mastermind champion 2021 then we will know it's worked for me at least :-)

gunner62

{Ed001's Note - and there is another reminder we are all different and need different inputs etc - I retain written information more easily than verbal. I fully agree you have to go for what works for you, but that is very rarely going to come from self-help books in the long term. I prefer the way Bruce Lee would look to when he said 'Be water, my friend' and talked about no way as the way. Basically you look into all the methods and then cherry pick just the bits that work for you and put it all together as your own way of doing things.}


 

 

 

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