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22 Apr 2020 12:09:43
Yes ed that is the idea, I have a few courses lined up with two other people who have helped along the way also jumping onto the course and yes i'm going to try and be involved with MIND on some for of integration or idea with them for a forum.

Thank you kindly for your support and those on your site also.

jkh1983

{Ed001's Note - that's great mate, good luck with it!}


1.) 22 Apr 2020 12:55:04
Good luck jkh mate, hope it all goes really well mate.


2.) 22 Apr 2020 13:51:37
Thanks gents!

Stay safe in this crazy world and roll on the return of the football and pubs!


 

 

22 Apr 2020 11:14:05
Morning Ed1, not sure if my previous landed, after discussions with MIND I've decided to close themindofmen and develop things with them directly, the main thought behind that is they have the resources and professional that I dont. So i'm glad my idea has hit home and I hope to implement it or similar via the MIND platform.

Anyway thank you all for the support to date and I will keep you posted on when things develop via MIND.

Ed1 if you could please close the thread showing the site as it will be closed today.

Thanks Gunner and SY watch this space!

jkh1983

{Ed001's Note - Deleted by Ed033 now, I do think it is a good idea to hand it over to those who are trained to deal with it. Are you going to get involved with MIND and get some training yourself?}


1.) 13 Apr 2020 21:50:56
Thanks mate take care.

{Ed001's Note - very welcome mate, good luck with it.}


2.) 14 Apr 2020 08:40:37
That's brilliant jkh mate, well done you.


3.) 14 Apr 2020 09:48:05
Thanks gunner, its basic for now but the premise is there and the hope is I can grow a collection of members to bring people together and help each other. The more people we have together the more support we can offer people. As Ed1 said if I/ we as a collective can help just one person then its a success.

{Ed001's Note - it has given you a purpose, so that has helped you during this quarantine. So it is already a success imo.}


4.) 14 Apr 2020 11:04:53
Thanks Ed, its already gaining a bit of a discussion on some platforms so hopefully people will buy into the idea.

Appreciate your support and the publish of the site.

{Ed001's Note - that's great mate, I really hope it helps as many people as possible.}


5.) 14 Apr 2020 11:15:38
From little acorns grow jkh mate, you have planted the seed with a compassionate heart and that's an excellent thing to do mate.
I'm sure people will contribute because I think it's the most natural thing in the world for anyone who has struggled themselves and recovered to want to help others get back on track too.


6.) 14 Apr 2020 12:19:31
Thank Gunner hope to see you over there as you have a good insight to help others!


7.) 14 Apr 2020 13:27:55
I will very gladly contribute in anyway I can jkh mate,


8.) 14 Apr 2020 14:53:07
Great news gunner, when you get a chance jump over and create a profile then you are in and can join the forum!


9.) 14 Apr 2020 17:36:03
Hi jkh couple of quick questions on signing up and creating a profile mate.
Other than this site I don't use any social media face book twitter ect so need to use my email address which isn't a problem but would my email address be publicly visible?
I know most people wouldn't dream of abusing the information but unfortunately there are few out there who unfortunately are not so respectful.
Sorry if I'm being thick but there is no hiding the fact I'm pretty much a technology dinosaur.


10.) 15 Apr 2020 09:14:12
Hi Gunner from what I can tell/ see your email is hidden and is not in the public eye, it is on the back end of the site which I can see as an admin of the site but not for general use that I have noted. If you go to the members screen you can go in and out of the different profiles for people who have already signed up and you should be able to see anything other than the names the have chosen to display on their profiles. The auto responses from the website will also go direct to the email you used to sign up but again not visual.

Im not 100% as its still very much being developed on the go but if you do note an issue do let me know and ill do what I can to resolve. I agree most wouldn't want to display their details.

Hope that helps.


11.) 15 Apr 2020 10:22:22
Yes Jkh mate that's brilliant:-)
Thank you.


12.) 15 Apr 2020 12:14:51
No problem bud and thanks for being part of the journey from the start!


13.) 15 Apr 2020 13:50:47
Ed1 are you coming over? more than welcome to join the community bud your input is welcomed.

How is the virus where you are btw?

{Ed001's Note - if I get time mate I certainly well.

It's fine here, they are disinfecting everything, the streets etc, on an almost daily basis. Very few deaths, so hopefully it will stay that way.}


14.) 17 Apr 2020 14:09:05
Thats good to hear bud, stay safe.

{Ed001's Note - cheers mate. I hope all is well in your neck of the woods?}


15.) 17 Apr 2020 23:41:07
It is what it is we have to accept the world we are in and do what is needed in this time for the greater good long term. I like to think of the positives we can take from this like what is really important in life. Gives us a good chance to take stock.

{Ed001's Note - very true and the best way to deal with it is look for the positives.}


16.) 21 Apr 2020 20:21:26
Busier than our rumour / banter page! Hopefully that’s not causing anyone stress.

Just signed up to the above — once you create a user name with email, edit the name In profile.

Have a great evening everyone - first post made on the mind men done 👊.


17.) 21 Apr 2020 20:27:46
Welcome on board SY4 thank you for joining!


18.) 21 Apr 2020 20:32:54
Ps I've added a new step to the how to join page on the back of your feedback to incorporate a process on how to amend your username prior to posting on the forums.


 

 

10 Apr 2020 09:10:56
Morning Ed1/ all, i'm getting close to being able to release something could I perhaps run things by you?

jkh1983

{Ed001's Note - of course mate, feel free.}


1.) 10 Apr 2020 09:59:49
great what is the best way to send the info just in here?

{Ed033's Note - Can you submit it via a posting form on here?


2.) 10 Apr 2020 17:10:17
Okies thanks will do, have a couple of issues to iron out first should hopefully not take too long but the bank holiday may take things a bit longer.


 

 

30 Mar 2020 13:31:25
Great idea and credit to all whom have had an input into creating it. I like many have and do suffer with mental health problems and have close friends whom suffer the same. For a long time I've toyed with the idea of setting up a charity for mens mental health to bring people together who can talk and support in an open or closed environment. I take my hat off to you all for placing a stone down in the path to beat he stigma that is attached to something that cripples many.

jkh1983

{Ed001's Note - have you spoken to people like MIND? Before setting up one, you might one to speak to one that is already there to see if they can either help or they have those facilities already available and you could help with theirs.}


1.) 31 Mar 2020 08:15:05
No I haven't actually bud I will do now though, hope you and the family are well.

Take care.

{Ed001's Note - good luck mate, whichever way you choose to go. If you can help even one person that would be brilliant. If everyone helped one person in their life, it would make a huge difference to the world.

As for MIND, they are a great charity, well worth speaking to.}


2.) 31 Mar 2020 09:39:57
Thats the idea to share from an personal perspective and hopefully help build processes to get people by.

By far the hardest fight anyone ever undertakes and not one they choose.

I will contact MIND and have a chat and try to develop an idea or maybe help them. Thanks for the info bud.

{Ed001's Note - good luck mate!}


3.) 31 Mar 2020 09:55:27
Hi jkh mate sorry to hear you and your friends are struggling too mate, as Ed001 says there is help out there and I'm sure MIND would help you set up a local group if one doesn't already exist I'm sure
For me understanding what is happening to you and what maintains it is a huge step to getting better,
I was looking at the BBC news online yesterday reading what was happening in the world and right at the bottom of the page was a an article asking Do We Really Have Free Will?
There are several very short videos on there all related to how our mind works and some of it is quite interesting.
Of course we have free will, we breathe without needing to think about it but if we choose to we can hold our breath or breathe faster or slower than normal but most of the time we are happy to let our subconscious do the job it's designed to do for us.
We have the brilliant abilty to sometimes stop ourselves saying or doing something we might regret as we have a crucial split second gap between thought and action in which we realise it's maybe not the right thing to say or do at that time, unfortunately there is no split second safety catch between thought and thought or feeling and feelings we get them without the chance to think first so we end up taking our thoughts and feeling personally because we think we are producing them because we believe we and our minds are one and the same thing when in reality we are no more our minds than we are our lungs liver or heart, they are ours but they are not us. I think knowing and really understanding and accepting this is so liberating and for me finally put on the path out of the maze I'd been stuck in for such a long time.


4.) 31 Mar 2020 10:24:45
Brilliant comment Ed001 mate, if we all helped just one person!

{Ed001's Note - it always annoys me when people say there is nothing they can do and it would make no difference! You can help one person and it will make the world of difference to them. Hopefully they will also help one person and so on. The world only needs a tiny amount of change to make a difference.}


5.) 31 Mar 2020 11:02:18
Brilliant philosophy Ed001 mate so true, the biggest gift we can ever give anyone is our time and a chance to share how they are feeling.
It can be so difficult to say to someone " I'm not ok " but if someone takes the time to ask "are you OK" with genuine compassion it can create a real opportunity for someone to open up which is sometimes all thars needed.
Homeless people get so lonely and quite often would prefer our company to our money.

{Ed001's Note - listening to people is a skill that seems to be disappearing. Everyone is glued to their phones now. I walked along the creek here a few weeks back and must have passed 60 people and not one of them even looked up from their phone. No wonder people are so lonely, they don't actually talk to each other, just text.}


6.) 31 Mar 2020 11:25:34
I'm hopeful that once the current situation is finally over we might have all learned that technology really is a poor substitute for genuine human interaction, sometimes we have to lose something before we realise just how important it was to us in the first place.

{Ed001's Note - because I spend so much time working looking at a screen, every moment I can get away from it I treasure. It is so nice to actually talk to people rather than type at people!}


7.) 31 Mar 2020 11:46:05
It's a bit like choosing to order online rather than be bothered to go shopping for what you need, in 3 months time I think people will be so thankful to be able to go out and
physically shop and interact again.
Who knows what good might come from adversity.


8.) 01 Apr 2020 00:24:45
Great post and reply’s.
Andy’s man club is also invaluable, there’s probably one near the OP. It’s a great space to talk, and share experience.
If not think about contacting them and setting a group up.

There should be a IAPT service that can offer, therapies like CBT or counselling.

It’s a magnificent resource this EDs. Good work.

{Ed001's Note - thanks mate though it was really down to g62.}


9.) 01 Apr 2020 15:22:17
Thanks G62 I personally have found a way to get through the dark times and limit them where best. As a result of that and experience in the area my thought was simply to reach out to those in a bad place. I've done so with some close friends already and continue to support them as often as I can and always when needed. I then stretched that out to people in my work who also had the issues so I gave an insight and hopefully a way through which seems to have assisted. That is kind of the path I've walked and thought ok if that small chat or a little guidance here and there could help someone even a little then perhaps I've done something worthwhile albeit small.

So yes appreciate the posts from all and from the site as a whole for enabling another place for people to talk as it can be easier to for people to talk online behind a username than in person. I spoken to a few resources recently and the people already doing things are great but there is clearly space for more support on our shores and undoubtedly across the globe.

An online forum is something I will also look to unless this page is to stay open, I wouldn't want to step on any toes, but a place for men to simply login under a non-descript username and talk to others with similar issues and experience could go along way I think.

I will lean on some of the IT contacts I have around me that have built some of my corporate webpages but any info on how easy or hard it would be to publish a forum site would would helpful if anyone has knowledge. Also if anyone wants to help grow the idea again more than happy.

From small acorns we can grow mighty oaks.

Peace and thanks!


10.) 01 Apr 2020 18:00:07
Hi jkh mate that's brilliant that you are feeling much better mate I an so pleased for you. I think when you start to feel much better yourself over a sustained period it's the most natural thing in the world to want to pass on that wonderful gift of peace of mind to others who are not currently able to find it and what you are doing with friends and work mates is a brilliant thing to do mate.
We can all only really share our own stories experiences and what finally worked for us mate and I don't think there can possibly be too much help out there, for me personally actually telling another human being namely my Doctor took me from the 40% recovery I'd achieved from some really good websites over 5 years or more to 60% in an instant just by actually saying to another human being " I'm struggling a bit mentally " and set me finally on the right tracks.
When we aren't strong enough to speak on personal basis about how we feel being able to share anonymously or just reading that you are not alone and many many other people feel just the same way or even similar to you is so comforting.
I think keep up what you are doing jkh mate and expand in every way you feel you happy to because although it's a cliche replacing the I in Illness with WE really does bring WElness.


11.) 05 Apr 2020 03:04:59
Thats so true Ed01. During this lockdown, whenever my wife order food online, she will always give an extra buck or even rounded up the payment and tell the riders to keep them. I asked her, are those tips? She said she isn't think about them as tips, but she is sure it will help them at least a bit to pump petrol in their bikes, especially during this hard times. I'm so proud of her.

Yes you don't have to help tens or hundreds of people. And you also don't have to spend hundreds or thousands to help people. And definitely you don't have to be rich to help people. As long as you being honest and with great intentions.

God bless you all. Stay safe always.

{Ed001's Note - that's the point, it only takes a little bit to make a difference. If everyone tips the delivery guy, then he makes a decent living, instead of scraping by. Even if that tip is very small, it does make a difference.}


 

 

 

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22 Apr 2020 13:51:37
Thanks gents!

Stay safe in this crazy world and roll on the return of the football and pubs!

jkh1983

 

 

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21 Apr 2020 20:32:54
Ps I've added a new step to the how to join page on the back of your feedback to incorporate a process on how to amend your username prior to posting on the forums.

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21 Apr 2020 20:27:46
Welcome on board SY4 thank you for joining!

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17 Apr 2020 23:41:07
It is what it is we have to accept the world we are in and do what is needed in this time for the greater good long term. I like to think of the positives we can take from this like what is really important in life. Gives us a good chance to take stock.

jkh1983

{Ed001's Note - very true and the best way to deal with it is look for the positives.}


 

 

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17 Apr 2020 14:09:05
Thats good to hear bud, stay safe.

jkh1983

{Ed001's Note - cheers mate. I hope all is well in your neck of the woods?}


 

 

 

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